Virgo loves hard, and is always in pursuit of star love—the kind where souls, minds, and bodies seamlessly merge. That's why this sign sometimes gets the (unfair) reputation of being too picky. They’re not—they just know exactly what they’re looking for, and know that settling for someone good enough will mean that they’ll never find the love that their body and soul crave.
Even when they find someone who might fulfill that role in their lives, Virgos may still be cagey. That’s because this sign is innately wired to protect their hearts. During the initial courtship, which may feel like it's taking forever, Virgo is watching his or her potential partner's every move. They want to make sure that this person will live up to the ideal image that they’re crafting in their mind, and a wrong move (like being rude to a waiter) will cause Virgo to cross this candidate off the list.
However, once Virgos give their heart, they give everything. They expect absolute honesty and give the same in return. A Virgo truly believes that partnership means "what’s mine is yours," and this sign elevates a partnership above all else. Because Virgos believe in lifelong love, a breakup or betrayal can be particularly devastating.
Virgo may seem a bit buttoned-up in public, but they love sex—they see it as a celebration of their partnership and a commitment to their partner. They cherish the physical aspects of their relationship and are not happy if they don’t have that, even for a few days. Making plenty of physical contact, including morning kisses and long evening embraces, massages, and time in the sheets, is key to keeping your Virgo happy.
Taurus: Two earth signs, Taurus and Virgo innately get each other, and they believe that drama takes away from partnership. These two signs are happy to swap social media passwords; each knows that the other has nothing to hide.
Cancer: Think of the line where the beach and the sea converge—that watery space where sand and ocean are impossible to separate is emblematic of the Cancer/Virgo bond. These signs are nearly psychically intertwined, and their physical connection is pretty out of this world.
Capricorn: Practical Caps and grounded Virgos agree on so much in life—they have a plan, they pursue excellence, and they're happy to avoid drama however possible. But they’re anything but boring. Because these two signs understand each other, they can help each other be their best—and they're unstoppable in the bedroom.
Good food, good wine, and plenty of conversation are all part of Virgo’s favorite evening. The Virgin often sees his or her favorite restaurants, cafes, and bars as “friends” and loves revisiting them. This sign also adores a date night where they feel like they can learn and grow—a special after-hours lecture at a museum is a surefire way to Virgo’s mind (and heart). But one of Virgo's favorite moments of a date night is when the door closes, the coats comes off, and he or she can sit on the couch with a glass of wine, talking deep thoughts. And the perfect evening progresses from there!
Although sensual, down-to-earth Virgos are drama-free, they often fall hard for fire signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) who often end up breaking their hearts. Fire signs respond to Virgo’s grounded, intelligent, pragmatic attitude, but they seem to spend early dates pushing Virgo’s buttons. They’re late, they cancel, they change plans, and they generally drive Virgo crazy.
But fire signs also excite Virgos and pull them out of their comfort zone, which includes being drawn toward fire signs' legendary passion in the bedroom. Virgos would never initiate public displays of affection, but they feel an intense thrill when a fire sign kisses them in a public bar. And Virgo loves feeling needed. The up-and-down drama that’s so prevalent in a fire sign’s life makes Virgo feel useful—he or she likes the fantasy of being able to “fix” a fire sign.
So can a fire sign and an earth sign like Virgo ever work? Yes! The trick is for both to give and take. Fire signs need to be honest and commit, and Virgos need to let go of their perfectionist tendencies and go with the flow. And both signs need to accept that they will argue, but also that arguing will only bring them closer and help them understand each other if they approach these disagreements as learning opportunities.
If you have your eye on a Virgo, remember that even if this person seems cool to your advances, he or she is watching you (if interested, of course). Kind, responsible, and generous words and deeds win you major points. Virgos love a potential partner who is always trying to be better, so showing that you’re constantly self-improving is essential in making a Virgin want to join you on that journey. Here are a few ways to make that Virgo want you:
Read the news. Virgo loves talking current events, and he or she is up to date on what’s going on in the world. Make sure you know, too, before you start a conversation—bluffing only gets you so far with this sign.
Show your smarts. A Virgo loves learning new things, so show off what you actually know. They love hearing you go in-depth about what you do for work, why this red wine is your favorite, or where you want to go on vacation. The more knowledge you put on display—and the more you teach them—the more they’ll love you.
Be kind. Virgos values kindness more than anything, and a display of rudeness—even if it’s not directed at them, like cutting off someone in traffic—will make them second-guess whether they want to be with you.
Sensuous and passionate, Virgo is all about slow, steamy lovemaking. While they’re up for the thrill of a quickie, Virgos much prefer to spend hours in bed, leaving plenty of time for round two (and round three) as well as time to talk and connect between rounds.
Virgo loves the buildup to the main event, and suggestive texts, fully- or mostly-clothed foreplay, and a deep neck massage that incorporates kissing before subtly removing their shirt all go a long way to getting them in the mood. Virgo is all about details, and gestures that require a bit of planning, like candles, massage oils, or new lingerie, are pretty likely to get them in the mood. In the same vein, it’s tough for Virgo to totally disconnect if there’s still stuff undone in their “real” life. Helping to de-clutter the living room or empty the dishwasher absolutely counts as foreplay in a Virgo’s mind.
When it comes to sex, Virgo needs full connection and loves positions where every inch of his or her skin is touching every inch of yours. Eye contact is also key, and telling a Virgo "I love you" is a bigger turn-on than a whole monologue of dirty talk.
Be her biggest cheerleader. A Virgo woman wants a partner who pushes her to be her best, and she's looking for someone who truly believes in her dreams. Getting to know her dreams and wishes, and being a partner in helping achieve them, is key. A Virgo woman wants a relationship where both of you are always learning and growing. Signing up for 5K runs together, going to museums, and reading and discussing books will help keep your connection close and genuine.
Be honest. While Virgo is kind to everyone, she doesn’t want to hear your compliments—however sincere and well meaning. Honestly voicing your opinions and constructive criticism means so much more to a Virgo woman than always hearing, “You’re great.” It’s also essential to be honest about what’s going well between you. Talking about how your relationship has grown and strengthened will provide benchmarks, and regular emotional check-ins can help you keep connected.
Look below the surface. A Virgo man can take him time opening up and letting his true colors show, so the first date (or even the second!) may be awkward. Virgo men aren’t flashy, and they believe that connection matters much more than appearances. If something does matter to you, you need to talk about it. Although a Virgo man is emotionally in tune with his partner, he’s not a mind reader. He'll file passive-aggressive behavior under “drama,” and he won't want to deal with it. He appreciates honesty, even if the conversation or topic isn’t easy to bring up.
Bring up issues and suggestions early in the relationship. A Virgo wants to be the best, so if he's doing something “wrong,” (like cooking you a steak dinner when you’re a vegetarian), he wants to hear it ASAP—and he'll hold it against you if you don't tell him. A Virgo man appreciates hearing what you think, not what you think he wants to hear, and he loves getting into debates with you (especially when you disagree).
Yes! A Virgo may be “sure” that you’re the one from the very first date, but that doesn’t mean he or she will commit—or let you know—right away. Virgo needs both mind and heart in alignment, so those first few months (or years) of dating may seem like you’re undergoing a constant test. But once Virgos truly commit, they commit for keeps. A Virgo will keep you grounded while pushing you to be your best self, and you will truly be on a partnership journey together, doing things as a couple you could never have accomplished solo.
Virgos may not officially commit for weeks (or years), but deep down, they know when they want to have you in their life as a permanent plus one. Here are some signs that they want you to stick around:
Once Virgos are committed to a partner, they tend to consider everything shared, and often don’t worry about password protecting their electronics. If they're suddenly cagey about their possessions or seem to be guarding their phone, it could mean that they’re hiding something.
Virgo also believes in communicating, so that terse “everything’s fine” response means it’s anything but. When Virgos won’t talk through an issue, it means that they’re over it.
Finally, a Virgo will stand up for you in front of friends, even if he or she privately disagrees with your actions. If Virgos criticize you in public, it’s a sign that they no longer respect you.
Virgo needs time and distance, retreating from the world for a while to fully nurse his or her broken heart. While Virgos are practical, pragmatic, and rarely lets people see them cry, they have a deep emotional reserve and need to truly experience their feelings on their own terms. The broken-hearted Virgo self-medicates with movies, music, and major cry sessions in bed. This sign won’t reenter the dating scene before they’re ready, and they may need a few months or even a year of being single before they’re ready to get back in the game. Pushing them (or pushing themselves) will only backfire.Love Compatibility Game