Shereen Campbell, an astrologer, intuitive, crystal expert and woman who manifested her own relationship (read her inspiring story here!) will share spells, crystal rituals, and astrology tips to help you find—and keep—the one.
One of the most popular questions I get asked is, “What can I do to find love?” I love, love, LOVE this question because there is so much that can be done to prepare yourself for the relationship of your dreams. I am going to share with you five rituals you can do daily to not only attract love into your life but also strengthen your sense of self-love. The two really go hand in hand, as the stronger your love and respect of you is, the stronger the vibes you will be sending out to the universe to bring you someone who is just as self-loving, self-caring and self-respecting of themselves.
What’s better than two people coming together, who both have a strong sense of self-love and self-worth? Can you see the angels dancing and the fireworks igniting at their meeting? Also, let’s be real, finding a partner who is just as magical as you, might take a bit of discernment on your part along with some (expected) bumps on the road of love. You gotta keep those spirits up, expectations down, and stay focused on trusting the process. And guess what? These rituals should help you do just that!
Before you write this one off as too cheesy, hear me out. This one really helped me to remember my magic. When I was working on increasing my sense of self-love while dating like a maniac, I
got the idea to write myself cute affirmations and post them all around my house. I would write phrases like “You
Are Beautiful” and “You Are a Savage,” “Damn, your butt is perfection” and “Wow, You Are so Smart.” These love notes
would be on my bathroom mirror, my headboard and in the hallway of my apartment. Each time I passed one, I would either say it out loud (followed by giggles) or at the very least just read it. Whenever I read a phrase I liked or heard a lyric that made me feel like a badass goddess, I would write it on a note and stick it somewhere I could see it. Believe it or not, seeing these inspiring affirmations around me was a great reminder of my awesomeness and made my entire dating experience more manageable.
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This one doesn’t take much time but is so worth it. Every morning, spend about five minutes daydreaming about what your day will look like when you are in a relationship. For example, it’s Monday morning, and you’ve dragged yourself out of bed, put makeup on, tossed on a dress and are getting ready to head out of the door. Before you do that, take a seat and re-imagine how the rest of your day would look like in the future. Would your bae be reminding you that you have to meet his coworkers after work? Or would he be gently reminding you not to forget your keys again because he has to work late? How about breakfast? Would you be eating together each morning or just rushing to the subway together? Continue on this way until how you would end the day with your love. Although it might sound like plain old visualization on a good day and wishful thinking on a miserable day, sending the vibe that you are ready, excited, and are sure about love to the universe is paramount in attracting love. The universe has a way of giving us exactly what we spend our time thinking about, so why not do just that. So for five minutes, visualize what your life will look like and enjoy the high you’ll feel after you’ve completed your perfect day in your mind.
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Everyone sleeps, right? So why not add some fun to your dreams and connect with your higher self more deeply with some crystals? Rose Quartz is one of my favorite stones for attracting love. Some wear it, some add it to their water, others sleep with it. I am for all three if you are serious about attracting love. My most favorite way though is sleeping with crystals next to my bed or under my pillow. The perk of sleeping with Rose Quartz is the uninterrupted time to absorb the crystal’s energy. Plus, you are super relaxed when you sleep, so it doesn’t have to fight with your conscious mind. Feel free to say a little prayer or ask the crystal to provide you with guidance and healing as you sleep so you can attract the highest level of love you can handle.
It’s important to get into the habit of reading something encouraging and thought-provoking. This will allow you to ponder where you may be blocked. Everyone has a shadow side, habits we need to break, and a naughty inner child at times. We all got shit we need to work on. Finding love in someone else will require you first to find love in yourself. Even the stuff you kind of don’t love.
I find that, by reading, we come across questions to ask of ourselves to further this sense of self-exploration. I
like to think of reading as a meditation of sorts, another way to connect with the universe. I find that when I am genuinely struggling with something, the answer almost always comes in a book I am reading. So, try to make a habit of reading even a bit about love, relationships, and spirituality. And if you really want to take this to the next level, try to do a bit of journaling about what you have read. Write about how it made you feel if it pulled on your heart strings and resonated with you. Explore if it caused you to see a bit more about yourself. I promise if you make this a habit, you will be sure to understand yourself better than you ever did before and more open to finding that love match.
This may be the most important daily ritual I recommend. I strongly believe that blessings, opportunities, and all amazing things come from gratefulness. When we step back and appreciate what we have, our hearts make room for more. When we focus on what is missing or what we do not have, we can only see what is lacking, and hold onto desperation.
Whenever I am feeling stressed, upset, or in a general state of “I don’t have enough,” I start counting up the things I am grateful for. Around number 10, all of my stresses begin to melt away. Then, as I continue, I feel myself working my way back towards the happiness train and solutions start to appear, often out of thin air. We shouldn’t use this exercise only in times of stress though. It should be a daily ritual we do each night, before bed.
What are you thankful for? List out all the reasons before you drift off to sleep. When you wake up, I promise your heart will be more open, and you will see more opportunities for love, more often than not. When searching for love, being open to possibilities is the beginning of the most magical love story. If you can’t even see the cutie in the elevator because you closed off thinking about something negative from the day before, you’ll never move forward towards your goal.
Wear a little green when you feel your heart could be a little more open. Green is the color of the heart chakra. When you integrate green into your wardrobe or sleep on green sheets or wear green crystals, it can help you open up, clear or balance your heart chakra. When looking to start a new relationship, it is crucial that our hearts are open, clear and balanced. This will allow you to love more profoundly and purer than before.
I really hope you enjoyed this list! Be sure to write me and let me know how it goes!—By Shereen Campbell
Shereen Campbell is a 30-something New Yorker striving to create the life of her dreams. She’s an astrologer, ecommerce manager, and the founder of My Little Magic Shop. She loves sailing, southern Italian food, and all things magical.
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