Bulls are the last ones standing because of this...You are an Earth Sign, which means that you rely on security in order to function at your highest levels. It's not that you're insecure - far from it, in fact. You just need to know where you stand so your efforts aren't wasted.
The good news is that building security can help any sign be happier throughout your lifetime. You already have it down. Though you may not always agree on how to do this with partners, colleagues and family members, you're able to get your voice heard.
Use your Venus ruler to make sure everyone gets along in the end. Overall harmony almost always wins out over making one or two "right" or self-satisfied.