A couple usually chooses their wedding date on a number of factors. They take into consideration the look and feel they want to achieve during their special moment. It could be a pretty spring palette, the dream of mid-summer nuptials, or a winter wonderland that are all deciding factors for a nuptial ceremony and its timing.
Of course the availability of your must-have-in-attendance friends and family counts too, finding a venue, and working around work schedules and holidays are all required to bring the event and everyone together, seamlessly.
With everything you have to do to find a date that works, the idea of employing a totally unrelated third party to suggest the date might seem utterly outrageous!
However, in some cultures, selecting an auspicious time is first and foremost, and today, many couples are opting to use the stars as their guide, for better or for worse…
Electional astrology is the method used to elect a horoscope – and find a moment in time – that’s most favorable for an event, be it wedding nuptials, a book, album or business launch, even establishing a country, political party or any number of important ceremonies.
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As an astrologer, it was the single most important element for my own wedding day. I was thrilled that the registry office had my preferred slot available, however it’s worth remembering that even the most divinely–timed wedding won’t save a union that’s not built to last. Relationships take work, no matter how good the astrological compatibility –or synastry– may be.
So, what does an astrologer look for when picking the perfect wedding date?
Each astrologer is unique, and will have a slightly different method for selecting the perfect moment for their client. However they will usually find a time that produces a strong ascendant (or rising sign) for the chart, and therefore a positive ‘chart ruler’, which is the planet governing the sign on the ascendant.
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They will typically seek a harmonious and happy placement for Venus—the planet of relationships—as well as a comfortable moment for the moon. They’ll look for a positive flow among the planets, offering the couple the best chance at happiness on the day itself and in the years that follow.
Avoiding the dreaded Mercury Retrograde is sensible, as well as the lesser known Venus and Mars Retrogrades. I went to a wedding last August that was held during Mercury Retrograde, and no less than six people had complications arriving—from misspelt names on airplane tickets, to forgotten passports and missed flight connections. To avoid communication and logistical mishaps it’s better to marry outside of those times.
A marriage commenced during Venus Retrograde could well fall a little flat, at worst involving the ghosts of ex-lovers, while Mars Retrograde has been said to dampen the couple’s sex drive…but if you dodge these astrological no-no’s and you’ll already be in good shape!
Even the most seasoned astrologer will agree, it’s impossible to find the perfect chart, and ultimately you’ll need to trust your own inner compass. So when you have a rough idea, an astrologer can support you in narrowing down your options, working within the parameters of your suggested time frame. If you become stuck, remember that your official signing ceremony could be quite separate from the celebrations!
And while an elected time gives you the sentiment of the moment and of the marriage ahead, there are many other factors that affect how two people grow together; through the astrological weather storms of life (‘transits’), getting along as a blend of energies (seen through casting a ‘composite chart’), or developing as an individual over time (ascertained through the progressed chart).
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If you’ve already tied the knot and are looking back on your own wedding chart, you might think of it as a reflection of your special day, and a flavor, not necessarily the main meal. You can also reflect on the moment you both met, which could hold an even greater significance in your love story.
But the most important thing is that you both live your truth, and trust that your union was written in the stars. —Kimberly Petra Dewhirst
Kimberly Petra Dewhirst is the creator of Star Sign Style. She started Star Sign Style to gather together all things celestial in a honey pot of wonder. She’s studied astrology in London and India, specializes in the fashion and beauty of the stars. She lives in Hong Kong with her New Yorker beau, and is a double Aries (sun-Venus), with a soft shell Cancer rising. Follow her on Instagram!
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