The desire to find the right person or what many term as "the one" is strong in most people. A soul mate is a person who you are compatible with not just physically and emotionally but spiritually as well. However, there are certain things that you should not do when it comes to finding and keeping this special person.
Definition of a Soul Mate
Before we can look closer at what you should not do, let us first define what a soul mate is. A soul mate is an individual who you share intimacy and love with but also a natural and deep affinity for. A soul mate is someone you forge a deep and spiritual bond with. On a metaphysical level, a soul mate is a person who you encountered in a past life and reconnected with after being reincarnated here on Earth.
According to Dorothy Thompson in "Romancing the Soul - True Soul Mate Stories from Around the World and Beyond," there are three types of soul mates with the highest form of soul mate being known as twin flames or the twin soul. Thompson tells us that, "Your twin soul is your other half; to find your twin soul is like finding yourself."
In order to understand and connect with someone in the most genuine way possible, you need to acquaint yourself with some necessary truths. Truth number one is that altering your perspective on another person is the absolute best way to enable them to alter their perspective on you. The second truth is that you will change nothing in your life until you do what you must to change your own behavior. Change starts with you. The third truth is that the only way to modify your behavior in a very real, permanent sense is to modify your mindset or your perspective. The root of behavior starts with what happens in your mind after all.
Predictable Behavior is an Attraction Killer
When you find someone who interests you and you start to get to know this person, do not say or do too many things that are predictable. Predictability is an attraction killer because it is boring and emotionally flat. Routine behavior does not lead to more attraction or a heightened level of interest.
If you want to connect with a potential soul mate then show him or her something new. Do or say something that unexpected, intriguing, and spontaneous so your love interest will sit up and take notice. If he or she thinks you are different from other dating partners, then this will add to your allure and it will peak their interest. Your potential mate will want to know more and more about you. So, go ahead and be as intriguing and as unpredictable as you can be - in positive ways, of course!
Get a Life
Once you have found someone who interests you, do not call or e-mail all of the time, and don't just show up or make yourself too available. This makes you look needy, clingy, and insecure. This is an instant way to lose your soul mate before you have completely reeled him or her in!
Give the other person the space, time, and opportunity they need to come to you. Do not push yourself on him or her, but let the relationship progress naturally. If you put all of your time and energy into this man or woman, then it looks like you have no life of your own. This will most likely derail the feelings that are developing between you.
Confident, potential soul mates want someone who has their own life, so they have a lot to gain and not just share. If your love interest sees that you have hobbies, passions, and friends of your own, as well as dreams and goals, then that shows that you have a rich, full life and are not looking to your partner to be your everything. This is a turn-on to most people. You want to have enough going on in your life when you find your potential soul mate that he or she will want to be a part of that joyous and meaningful world of yours.
Finding and keeping your soul mate can be a slippery slope with lots of obstacles to overcome, much less being in the right place at the right time to meet them! The important thing to remember is to be open to the possibilities and to never lose your sense of fun and adventure for life. Show your soul mate every reason why he or she should want to be a part of your life.